


Back in June I received this email from Catherine Heron with the photos above (from top to bottom: Shapleigh coat of arms, Mary Heron, Mary and her son, Charles.)
Hi Mara, 
My grandmother died a week ago tomorrow. She was 98 1/2 years old.
She  was 1 of 12 living daughters of a Union Civil War vet. At an impatient 3  she headed downtown alone, then graciously allowed a neighbour to  accompany her: the "Unsinkable Molly Brown" of the Titanic. She was in  Saltzburg when the Nazis came. Her Detroit friends included Louis &  Suzanne Chevrolet. She escaped a marriage of politics and convenience by  fleeing alone to a Nevada "divorce ranch" in the thirties in the middle  of the night. Because of her stories, I know I am connected to all of  history and humanity. 
She was positively fierce, fierce in her opinions - petitioning to save greenspaces, fiercely liberal... fiercely proud of my career as an artist, fiercely independent - fiercely supportive, nay - instrumental in encouraging me to get out of relationships I was miserable about. She  was University educated, keeping her mensa-member husband of 50+ years  on his toes constantly - learning perpetually. Skype-ing herself in to  my cousin's west coast lesbian wedding so she could share her genuine  joy for both women.
A true practitioner of unconditional love, she  always listened intensely, with vital interest. She taught us that  grace, charm and compassion are what make a lady; to never stay in a  passionless relationship; to have treats at the ready for your guests;  to blaze a trail doing what is right; that love is the answer.
Through her, I was a descendant of the Shapleigh  family - who arrived in Kittery, Maine in 1623 - three years after the  Mayflower. The qualities and aspects of her that I've described, I have  always been told, are "100% Shapleigh." In conversations with my aunt -  her daughter - we've talked about the qualities of the women of this  line, this "fierceness," quickness, compassion, energy, freedom. My name  is Catherine Shapleigh Heron.
I had told my grandmother a year ago I had been  playing with the idea of getting a scallop shell tattooed on  my wrist -  the scallop being the symbol on the family Coat of Arms, the original,  from Devon. She loved this idea, and on a $26 birthday check wrote "FOR A  SHAPLEIGH TATTOO??!" in the memorandum line. But now that she has  passed, I've thought it over and would simply like to get the Shapleigh  motto (also from the coat of arms) done up the inside of my arm.
The motto is "Fideli Certa Merces," which translated, is "to the faithful, reward is certain."
I was touched by Catherine's email for many reasons: the beautiful prose, the specific memories of her grandmother, and Mary's $26 birthday check (my own grandmother sends me $25 every year). So Catherine became June's Gratitude Giveaway winner and we endeavored to create a tattoo worthy of Mary Heron. The terms: that we would each donate $26 to a charitable cause dear to Mary's heart.
And so...
 
Update on 2011-08-19 19:01 by mara @ neithersnow
Read Part II and Part III of this story.